If you are in a relationship with someone, you should feel loved, safe, respected and free to be yourself.
But if the relationship leaves you feeling scared, intimidated or controlled, it’s possible you’re in an abusive relationship.
Confused about Consent?
If you are struggling to understand consent, just imagine instead of initiating sex you're making someone a cup of tea. Watch this video to find out more:
Consent means giving permission for something to happen or agreeing to do something and being comfortable with that decision. It doesn’t matter what gender you are, or whether you’re straight, gay or bisexual, if you’re planning to do anything sexual then both of you must give consent.
Consent has to be given freely and no one can be made to consent to something. It’s not consent if someone does something because they feel like they have to. You can also never assume that someone is giving consent – you have to be sure.
Consent is an essential part of healthy relationships and it’s really important to know what it is and the many ways to spot it. Both you and the person you’re with always need to consent before sex or any intimate activity.
If you want to do something sexual with your partner, the responsibility lies with you to check for consent, not with your partner to say ‘no’ if they don’t want to.
Support for young people:
- GAIA: Lambeth service that works with girls at risk of sexual harm or gender-biased violence
- Expect Respect (St Giles): work with girls in groups and individual mentoring email firstname.lastname@example.org
- St Michaels fellowship: work with young parents
- WUSH (Wise Up to Sexual Harm): sexual health service and relationships, email Deborah Clarke email@example.com
- Metro Centre Online: gives sexual health and emotional support for LGBTQ young people in South London email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 020 8305 5000
- Brook Advisory: provides sexual health advice in Lambeth, safe sex relationship support and 1:1 work
- The Well Centre: based in Streatham, provides a holistic health service for young people including counselling
- iDREAM: a community arts based programme open to young people living in Lambeth aged between 14 – 21 who are using or at risk of using cannabis or alcohol. Email email@example.com
- South Central Youth: youth club based group and 1:1 work to divert young people from gangs and crime. Offering a healthy working relationship.
- Stop CSE: provides information about Child Sexual Exploitation
- FACE (Fighting Against Child Exploitation): a group of young people, male and female, who are aware of the dangers of grooming and sexual exploitation. This website was developed by them to help other young people who are vulnerable or taking risks and to let them know about the dangers out there and give information on how to keep safe.
- Health for Teens - a website developed especially for young people between the ages of 11 – 16 to learn about their health, lifestyle, growing up, feelings and relationships.
- Safer London: Pan London service to support young women to exit gang activities, or at risk of gang activity. Emphasis on CSE.
- CEOP: Child Exploitation & Online Protection CentreThink U know?
- Victim Support: have a support team for Lambeth, call 020 7801 1777. Lines are open 9am-5pm, Monday to Friday
- Children’s Society: Offers a variety of projects such as
- RISE: London wide boys' and young men’s CSE service, email Manpreet Patil, firstname.lastname@example.org
- US project: for all young people with learning disabilities/additional needs contact Amy Edwards via email email@example.com or call 07739659404
- Safe Choices: This project delivers 1:1 and group work with young women aged 15-22 who are either leaving custody or leaving care, and have had experience with sexual exploitation, sexual violence, gang offending and violent offending. Email Yvonne Hansen, firstname.lastname@example.org or call 020 8221 8229.